I did a taster read of Mark Manson’s book on not giving a fuck. In the first chapter he goes on about how people give too many fucks and become overwhelmed and unhappy, or give no fucks and become uncaring assholes.
I thought about it on Chewie’s morning walk.
Sure there are people who fall in one of those two catagories—too many fucks given and not enough fucks given. But I don’t think most people fall in either of these. Most people give just the right the amount of fucks that they can afford/handle.
The problem isn’t with how many fucks we give, but what do we give a fuck about.
Often the choice is between giving a fuck about things/people that are
important but hard to satisfy, and
easy to satisfy but peripheral
In such a choice, easy wins most times. And that’s what causes the unhappiness.
As an individual choice, giving a fuck for something easy results in an easy win, and provides a nice emotional boost. But when the life becomes full of too many easy wins, and none of the important ones, that’s when the trouble starts. That’s when the heart starts hating even the wins. That’s what leads to the unhappiness.
[ Perhaps the book will move on to this distinction. After all I’ve just rushed through the first chapter for now :) ]
I recently retired a pair of shoes from service (last-but-one in the photos above), and they’ve been lying next to the bin for a few weeks now. When R enquired how do we dispose them off – waste or recycling – I didn’t know.
I don’t know, because I have not thrown away any1 shoes in the 5+ years that we’ve been living in this house. The last shoe I remember throwing away was a pair of generic sports trainers that I disposed off after the sole fell off. That was in 2012.
It’s bright1. It’s beautiful. And it’s unmissable.
Beautiful and unmissable – Those are top qualities in a product that I have to use thrice a day, to stretch my troublesome hip flexors and back.
No one likes stretching – it hurts, is boring, and has no adrenaline (or ego muscle) boosting effects of other exercises. Moreover, I need to do these thrice a day, unprompted!
So, I put on my self-designed design thinking hat, and ordered the exercise block in a colour that I can’t, and don’t want to, miss. Every sight of it reminds me I need to stretch, and it’s hard to not catch sight of it. And in a colour that beautiful, I want to use it – even if for painful stretches!